When married to a narcissist there are a lot of reasons you may want to divorce. In fact, you may even want to bring these things up in court or in your petition for divorce but this is not allowed in many states. I was divorced in a no-fault state, which means you’re not permitted to bring them up in court on fault-based grounds, so our divorce was classified under irreconcilable differences. I was able to bring up the abuse when it came to determining custody and parenting time with our children but not for the divorce.
In the States of Wisconsin, Oregon, Washington, Nevada, Nebraska, Montana, Missouri, Minnesota, Michigan, Kentucky, Kansas, Iowa, Indiana, Hawaii, Florida, Colorado and California, a person seeking a divorce has no other option but to claim irreconcilable differences or irreparable breakdown of the marriage.
When I divorced my first two husbands, I did so in Tennessee. Tennessee is not a no-fault state and I was able to bring up that both of them had committed adultery. This made it easier for the judge to grant me a full divorce but they all felt about the same. I didn’t see any difference in how the two proceeded through the courts so my thoughts on which one is better, I have none. A divorce is a divorce. When you have an unhealthy partner it is best just to get out.
In preparation for your divorce if you are in a fault-based state you will have to gather the proof that what you say is fact. Possession is not nine-tenths of the law, it is proof.
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