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Survival Mode after Abuse

Here I sit today and I find myself in survival mode again. I am no longer a victim, I am a survivor, but today I am not feeling like a thriver. I took my girls to school this morning but if I am being honest, I haven't done anything else except watch some TV and sit...

Flying Monkeys that won’t go away.

My ex has one main Flying Monkey. This one is the fakest of the fake. She called me about a month after I left the state to talk to my girls. The phone was answered by accident. I was in the grocery store. When I answered and realized the mistake I froze. She asked me...

Divorcing My Narcissist

I wrote a series for Queenbeeing about my journey and the steps to divorcing a narcissist. I will link them throughout this blog. I walked through the steps of my divorce to give others insight on the procedure. Today is one year since the day I walked into the...

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Are you finding yourself alone this holiday season? Maybe you're not alone but who you are with is toxic. If you have the time and want to come to hang out with Coach Colleen and me for a Christmas Eve Hangout on Zoom @ 7pmEST. Just click the event link to say you are...

Just when you think you’re all done…

I initially filed for divorce on January 10, 2018. After a couple of hearings to make sure I had all I needed to have for the divorce the Final Hearing for the divorce was on October 8, 2018, with the General Magistrate. the Judge, who was also the judge for the DVI...

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Getting organized and comfortable in my new life.

For three days the sun came out, I miss seeing the sunshine every day. I spent a lot of time outside soaking it up and getting my new environment organized.  My kids' education is set and they are happy and thriving. I went to the school board yesterday and the person...

Where did I go wrong?

After the final discard, it was 3 of my daughters and I left to pick up the pieces. One of my daughters was an adult. She was not planning on moving at the time nor had she even talked about it that I recall. I asked her to stick around until child support started...

The Final Discard.

The final discard was November 19, 2017. At this time I was broken, I was shocked, I was broke. My husband was in detox and I had just learned that there was not a moment he was clean in our marriage. Every time he was sick in bed with the "man flu" he was actually...

When hell freezes over…

There was a time 17 years ago, after two divorces in 9 years, that I decided it was time for a change. I planned for months and it went off without a problem.  I was making the leap to my next destination, from the place I considered home, to sunny Florida to start a...

To the new supply of my narcissistic nightmare!

There isn’t a moment of the day that I would put myself through the type of abuse he dishes out ever again so no fear I am not trying to take your man. I thank you for taking his attention from bullying and harassing me while he lies about loving his children and...

Preparing for a hearing.

This door will be my view on Monday morning because I have my divorce final hearing Part 2. I know I need to go through my pictures and paperwork and get it together. Instead, I am reading posts on Facebook and researching laws in another state to get my mind off of...

What happens when a judge orders a custody evaluation?

Custody Evaluation is a court-appointed evaluation with a mental health expert who evaluates a family and makes a recommendation to the courts for custody matters, usually including residential custody, visitation, and the parenting plan. Most co-parents don’t fully...

Contested Divorce vs Uncontested Divorce.

Just a quick article to discuss contested and uncontested divorces. Hope all of my survivors are doing well today. A contested divorce is where you and your spouse can't come to an agreement on the important factors of a divorce. Those factors include the division of...

Screenshots galore

I started out by taking screenshots of the things that were important during our separation. They would end up buried in my phones memory because I would find it again and take another screenshot. Put this habit on repeat and the hundreds of messages from him end up...

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