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Moving On (another open letter)

Today is my daughter's 12th birthday so it is only natural that family members would pass along the wishes for a happy birthday. When it is coming from someone who is toxic, disrespectful, and takes no blame for their actions it can take away from your mojo. Stay...

“I believe you”

I believe you! I am not concerned about whether or not anyone believes me, least of all someone on the "other side". Someone, who very well could have gone through a very similar experience as mine but can I trust what is said? I am glad you believe me but do you...

How to keep Flying Monkeys Chasing Wild Geese

  Do you have flying monkeys in your life? I have them in several forms. They come in the guise of a daughter and sibling to my children that claims to want to have a relationship with my children with no follow through, an ex of my ex that I have to continue to block...

Survival Mode after Abuse

Here I sit today and I find myself in survival mode again. I am no longer a victim, I am a survivor, but today I am not feeling like a thriver. I took my girls to school this morning but if I am being honest, I haven't done anything else except watch some TV and sit...

Flying Monkeys that won’t go away.

My ex has one main Flying Monkey. This one is the fakest of the fake. She called me about a month after I left the state to talk to my girls. The phone was answered by accident. I was in the grocery store. When I answered and realized the mistake I froze. She asked me...

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DIY Divorce: Lessons I Have Learned

When filing for a high conflict divorce you are going to fight tooth and nail for what you want and need. When I filed in January I waited for him to answer the petition for Dissolution of Marriage. He promised he would give me an answer and time passed by. I thought...

Cash Jobs, the Ultimate Manipulation Tool.

When I met my ex he was a restaurant manager for iHop, his child support was automatically taken from his check. I was unaware of any issue there and then things changed. In the first couple of months, he would come home talking about this opportunity to open a pizza...

Financial Abuse: The abuse that keeps on giving

Financial abuse happens in most domestic violence abuse situations. If your spouse has controlled your ability to use, acquire, or maintain financial resources you have been financially abused.   Not only did my ex abuse me to the point that I lost all confidence in...

Upcoming Christmas Events

Are you finding yourself alone this holiday season? Maybe you're not alone but who you are with is toxic. If you have the time and want to come to hang out with Coach Colleen and me for a Christmas Eve Hangout on Zoom @ 7pmEST. Just click the event link to say you are...

Just when you think you’re all done…

I initially filed for divorce on January 10, 2018. After a couple of hearings to make sure I had all I needed to have for the divorce the Final Hearing for the divorce was on October 8, 2018, with the General Magistrate. the Judge, who was also the judge for the DVI...

One Holiday Down One to Go.

I survived one of the hardest holidays I have had in a while. The energy of the house full of people with different issues of their own and me living very much in my head knowing that I have family members talking shit about me behind my back, set the day off right....

Wow, she went there?

Today my mom, who has Alzheimer's, fell and hit her head. My dad is her sole caregiver and also takes care of his mother who just happened to be out of town for the holidays. When I found out it was through a message on FB that informed me he was on his way to the ER...

Where it all started. Welcome to Divorce Your Narcissist.

When I went to court for my Domestic Violence Injunction I did so with a statement that I had planned to read in the courtroom. When I was waiting in the hallway outside the original room that it was supposed to be in my ex's attorney informed me that the hearing was...

My life, My future

Mr. XXXX went into detox on November 21, 2017, at a facility in St. Pete or Clearwater, I was not allowed to know where and his daughter did not respond when I asked her where he was. He called me the first day and said that if I did not have a relationship with his...

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