Survival Mode after Abuse

Survival Mode after Abuse

Here I sit today and I find myself in survival mode again. I am no longer a victim, I am a survivor, but today I am not feeling like a thriver. I took my girls to school this morning but if I am being honest, I haven’t done anything else except watch some TV and...
Flying Monkeys that won’t go away.

Flying Monkeys that won’t go away.

My ex has one main Flying Monkey. This one is the fakest of the fake. She called me about a month after I left the state to talk to my girls. The phone was answered by accident. I was in the grocery store. When I answered and realized the mistake I froze. She asked me...
Divorcing My Narcissist

Divorcing My Narcissist

I wrote a series for Queenbeeing about my journey and the steps to divorcing a narcissist. I will link them throughout this blog. I walked through the steps of my divorce to give others insight on the procedure. Today is one year since the day I walked into the...
DIY Divorce: Lessons I Have Learned

DIY Divorce: Lessons I Have Learned

When filing for a high conflict divorce you are going to fight tooth and nail for what you want and need. When I filed in January I waited for him to answer the petition for Dissolution of Marriage. He promised he would give me an answer and time passed by. I thought...
Cash Jobs, the Ultimate Manipulation Tool.

Cash Jobs, the Ultimate Manipulation Tool.

When I met my ex he was a restaurant manager for iHop, his child support was automatically taken from his check. I was unaware of any issue there and then things changed. In the first couple of months, he would come home talking about this opportunity to open a pizza...
Financial Abuse: The abuse that keeps on giving

Financial Abuse: The abuse that keeps on giving

Financial abuse happens in most domestic violence abuse situations. If your spouse has controlled your ability to use, acquire, or maintain financial resources you have been financially abused.   Not only did my ex abuse me to the point that I lost all confidence in...
Upcoming Christmas Events

Upcoming Christmas Events

Are you finding yourself alone this holiday season? Maybe you’re not alone but who you are with is toxic. If you have the time and want to come to hang out with Coach Colleen and me for a Christmas Eve Hangout on Zoom @ 7pmEST. Just click the event link to say...
Just when you think you’re all done…

Just when you think you’re all done…

I initially filed for divorce on January 10, 2018. After a couple of hearings to make sure I had all I needed to have for the divorce the Final Hearing for the divorce was on October 8, 2018, with the General Magistrate. the Judge, who was also the judge for the DVI...
One Holiday Down One to Go.

One Holiday Down One to Go.

I survived one of the hardest holidays I have had in a while. The energy of the house full of people with different issues of their own and me living very much in my head knowing that I have family members talking shit about me behind my back, set the day off right....
Wow, she went there?

Wow, she went there?

Today my mom, who has Alzheimer’s, fell and hit her head. My dad is her sole caregiver and also takes care of his mother who just happened to be out of town for the holidays. When I found out it was through a message on FB that informed me he was on his way to...

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